Q&A: Make A Move Without A Doubt,
Get Her To Ask You Out
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This week's Q&A focuses on creating attraction, making a move the first time you're with her, and the best way to set up a date. David DeAngelo, author of Double Your Dating: What Every Man Should Know About How To Be Successful With Women, has your answers.
Any tips for creating attraction with a woman when you are out together for the first time?
A very simple way to let your woman know that she is in the hands of a real man is to be chivalrous when you are out on the town.
Open doors for her, and always be sure to walk on the outside of the curb.
If some shady people cross your path, position yourself between them and her. This is all simple stuff, but you'd be surprised how many men forget it completely.
But this is, of course, good news for you. Because guys who do remember this stuff and practice it are handsomely rewarded.
Should a guy "make a move" the first time he is out with a woman?
Did you know that women hate when a guy they are attracted to doesn't make a move?
Yes, in some cases, you can use this to build anticipation and make her want you more, but eventually you must take the initiative and make something happen.
When a woman is really into a guy and he doesn't try to sleep with her, it makes her feel less attractive.
She also worries that you might not have the confidence to make a move, which makes you look less attractive.
Combine these two things together and the result is not good.
Remember this: She is not going to do it for you.
Alex put it very well when he said, "If you take off a woman's pants, she feels sexy, but if she has to take off her own pants, she feels like a slut."
Which option do you think a woman prefers?
Now, just because you make a move does not mean she's going to give in and sleep with you on the first night.