Should You Date Women Who Don't Have Friends?
You've been dating her for weeks, maybe even months, and you've gradually begun to realize one very important and potentially awkward fact about her: She has no friends, or at least, very few of them.
There are many possible reasons for a woman's lack of a posse -- some good and some bad -- but before you freak out and question her status as a nerd or an outcast, consider this: Depending on the reasons for it, her lack of friends can work for or against you.
Below are five points that will clarify why she might not be heading out with the girls every Friday night, as well as some clever suggestions on how to handle it. With these tips, you should be in great shape to keep the situation under control, and most importantly, minimize the negative effects that her lack of a social life will have on your relationship.
She is a loner
Pro: If she is used to hanging out on her own, then it is unlikely that she will ever become dependent on you. Want to go out with the boys? No problem. Want a day on your own to watch sports in your pajamas? She won't care.
Con: If she spends much of her time on her own, she may have intimacy issues. This might not bother you at the beginning, when you are basking in the glory of endless nights out with your posse, but when it comes to finally making a commitment, she may be a little wearying.
She recently moved to your city
Pro: This is probably the least worrisome reason for a lack of friends, both because it is temporary and it has absolutely no bearing on her personality. It may even work in your favor: If she doesn't know too many people in the city, she'll have lots of time to spend with you.
Con: Until she meets new people to fill her needs and schedule, she may become dependent on you. For you, this will mean some handholding and emotional support until she finds the friends that she's looking for.
She doesn't get along with other girls
Pro: If she is more accustomed to communicating with guys than girls, she'll probably get along well with your buddies. So you don't have to worry about inviting the guys over for pizza and the game, because she most likely won't mind hanging out with them.